There are things that are sacred. Childhood friends are one of them. Especially those you haven’t seen since
entering adulthood. Those friends, who
affected you profoundly for one reason or another, but exist only in your
childhood. They are sacred and should
remain ever so.
One of my sacred childhood friends died of cancer
today. She is a person I haven’t thought
of for a long, long time, but the minute I did, immense, colorful, warm, bright
memories flooded back to me immediately.
She had tangles of gorgeous brown curly hair. Lovely hazel eyes. The biggest smile you’ve ever seen. And I remember a very specific conversation
we had about being a tomboy, “It’s fine to run with the boys, Sha. I always have too. I’ll bet you can run faster if you try, can’t
you? “ Looking at the ground, I answered
shyly, “Maybe.” I could hear the smile
in her voice as she said, “I run fast too, but I never leave the house without
my lipstick. I want to make sure they
remember why they’re chasing me.”
I can recall that moment, the setting in which it took
place, the look on her face, the color of her lipstick as she put it on her
lips. The sound of her feet on the
wooden floorboards as she drug me from the room back into the meadow. I can remember it as if it were yesterday
instead of almost 20 years ago.
She was loved. She
laughed easily and often. She was
beautiful and she glowed from inside.
People were drawn to her. And I
watched her from the shadows with a sense of awe as I could never in a million
years imagine what it would feel like to be that adored. But she always tried to pull me in. We danced like crazy. We sang like crazy. We smoked cloves on the balcony and I
listened to her tell stories.
We never kept in touch.
I don’t think we ever really tried.
It was a friendship that was entirely contained by the magic of the
place and time. And, for me, it was
still there. Encased by the safety that
such things innately carry with them. Or
so I thought. I have no idea who she was
when she took her last breath today. I
have no idea if she was married or had children to leave behind.
And I don’t wish that was different. This is not a post of regret. There is, however, a tremendous amount of
sadness in the face of losing something so bright, so utterly vibrant. And there is a sense of deeper loss in
knowing that those sacred things, those things that should be left in their
velvet containers, are vulnerable.
That there is a sense of vulnerability that is
absolute. With all things and all
people.